How Do I Tell My Child About Divorce?

How Do I Tell My Child About Divorce?

Divorce is never easy, however, in cases where children are involved, divorce cases can be even more complicated. You will want to be thoughtful in your approach, to ensure any children involved in the divorce are given all of the knowledge, tools, and safety needed to process this difficult change. When parents succumb to their own emotions, whether that be sadness, anger, or even anxiety, it can lead to an unhealthy environment with long term effects on a child’s development. Working with a certified divorce coach (CDC), such as Attorney Dawn Renken, can help you divorcing parents make a smoother transition for everyone. 


Breaking The News

It is important to save talking to your children about divorce until you are absolutely certain this is the choice you want to make. In cases where you have older children it may be more difficult to keep marital problems between you and your spouse, but minimizing the involvement your child has in the divorce decision process is important. 


Once you are certain that you will be going through with the divorce, talk to your children as transparently as possible about the fact the marriage will be ending. This does not mean talking negatively about their other parent, or giving them the details of why you are filing for divorce, just letting them know the details that will directly impact them such as if you or their other parent will be moving out of the home. When possible to do so calmly, discussing these matters with both parents present is ideal. If emotions are high and arguments are unavoidable between spouses, talk to your child one on one. 


There is no easy way to explain to your child that you are getting a divorce. Do your best to focus on controlling your tone, your emotions, and the way you word the news. The impact this moment will have on them can set the tone for how they will handle the rest of the divorce. At Renken Law Firm in Houston, our team is here for you. We understand how important your family is and want to help you navigate this difficult time in your life. 


You will want to tailor the conversation to fit your child. Think about their age, maturity level, and personality. You will want to adapt the conversation to reach the child without overwhelming them. Make sure to keep the message clear that the divorce has nothing to do with them, that they are not to blame, and that they are loved by both parents. Reassure them every step of the way, to keep them comfortable and calm. You can explain to them that even though relationships can change between adults, the love parents have for children is forever. Reassuring them that through all of the changes happening now and in their near future, the bond shared between them and their children will remain strong. 


Give your children enough information to prepare them for the upcoming changes in their lives. Try to answer their questions as honestly as possible. Again, there is no reason to dive into the specific personal reasons for divorcing, just make sure they understand what will change, what will stay the same, and comfort them along the way. Your child will need to know you are there for them through this time. 

Dawn Renken is a certified divorce coach (CDC) who can help you navigate this difficult time in your life. Not only does working with a divorce coach help to ensure all of your bases are covered throughout the divorce process, but they can also help you navigate the difficult emotions you are experiencing throughout this process. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you through your divorce and lessen the emotional impact on your family.


Divorce Attorney in Houston  

Renken Law Firm is here to help couples who wish to dissolve their marriage, whether that be through divorce or legal separation. We are here to help those who are ending marriages that have been contested, uncontested, or collaborative. We are fully prepared to help you navigate the specifics of your case. We proudly serve the Greater Houston area, including but not limited to Brazos County, Cypress, Fort Bend County, Galveston, Houston Heights, Houston, Humble, Katy, Kingwood, Memorial Houston, Montgomery County, Montrose, Richmond, Rosenberg, Spring, The Woodlands. All marriages are different, making each divorce equally unique with its own set of needs that must be addressed. Contact our law office to explore your options moving forward, and find out how we can help you.



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